I DO NOT OWN THE RIGHTS TO ANY MUSIC
*Caution Spoilers Ahead
How do you express your love? Music is the way to many of our hearts. Somehow it seems as if our favorite artist knows the feelings our heart feels but our mouth can never find the words to say. But is that good enough? What if their words aren’t good enough and only our words can solve this problem?
You ever catch a glimpse of your girl and in that look, you know whatever connection you thought you two had is now in a state of panic… “What wrong?” It’s crazy that if we pay attention close enough we’ll always be able to find out where things went left if we don’t already know. In the first scene Malcolm tells Marie “We fucking did it” she replies “Did what?” He says back to her “I wrote and directed and premiered a movie…” and that was where he poured the gas into the fire and it began to rise. Little did Malcolm know, he was digging a hole big enough for me and you to fit.
Appreciation goes a long way in relationships. They say one of the easiest ways to lose someone is to stop being thankful for the little things that they do for you such as opening the door or thanking your girlfriend who was the inspiration for your hit film in your big speech. It’s almost like a stock, you can buy into the person (a company) and support their dreams (their stock) but if they make millions in the year and don’t pay you any dividends for your contribution to their growth was that relationship really worth anything? What is your breaking point?
Let’s change lanes real quick though. Why does it seem as if every time men are on their high horse there is always the woman who was a part of the journey there to soon bring his head back out of the clouds he’s currently lost in? It’s like when people who know you tell you to “Be Humble” after an accomplishment. Karlous Miller once said someone telling you to be humble is them trying to tell you that basically we came from the same place or I knew you before you were here, so don’t let all of this fame get to your head. Who are they to tell you to be humble though? Do they know of the Shame and Guilt you had to face to reach this level?
I think the same reason it is so “hard” for women to tell us “what’s wrong” is the same reason men struggle to tell them the “truth”. The truth is covered in lies even though there may be a bit of truth in the lie. For example, Malcolm knows that Marie is the source of his influence for the film, but his ego is too fragile to admit such a thing, especially on his big day. Marie found several things to be mad at instead of initially just stating what was the thing that really made her mad and how to fix it. They bicker at each other fighting for control of the argument to see who’s right. Malcolm eventually tells Marie she was a part of the influence for the film, but in the worst way Marie would want to be represented. Marie then gets even by addressing the vulnerabilities of Malcolm hoping that would break him down enough to tell the truth, but it only causes him to push the knife he stuck into her even deeper. Now, something that could’ve been solved in the first 10 minutes of the film is dragged along for 1 hour and 46 minutes.
What’s the importance of wrong or right when my intentions were good, but my actions just didn’t align with that? What if I told you we aren’t searching for who’s right or wrong but for understanding. Understanding of who we are, understanding of our importance, understanding of our influence. Once we find that then all wounds are transitioned to a healing process. The importance of Malcolm and Marie was Understanding. When Malcolm finally admitted to Marie that she was the inspiration of his film verbally without any buts attached, is when she finally was satisfied with the whole argument. She may have run in circles to get to that point, but what she wanted understanding, not pity or leftover satisfaction. Appreciate those relationships close to you that influence you to be who you are. Love is Everlasting. If that is the foot we choose to step with first, then anything done wrong should be aimed at our head and not our hearts. Don’t burn bridges looking for the next big creative pitch.