I DO NOT OWN ANY RIGHTS TO MUSIC
Where do the feelings go after you’ve broken up with someone or vice versa? Do they just disappear or go to the next person in line?
They can flow to your mind and live in your subconscious haunting you day in and out if you don’t make peace with them.
I have days where I’m driving around and I may see a spot I use to be at a lot with one of my exes and naturally I’ll replay some of the things we did while we were there, yunno reflective nostalgia and shit.
But some days I get lost there. It’s like I forget all that caused us to separate and only remember the emotions I felt for them and crave that feeling or energy again. Even if I know I’m not craving them directly I crave the vibe they gave me.
There are two types of nostalgia. One is reflective nostalgia and the other is restorative nostalgia.
Restorative nostalgia is when you reflect on your life and you want to recreate those times. This nostalgia is the main cause of you texting your ex when you know she’s the last person that should be on your mind.
Reflective nostalgia is a nostalgia where you look back and appreciate what you learned and felt in those times. You don’t try to recreate it, but you do appreciate the experience for creating you to be who you are currently even if you’re broken…
I’m trying to transform from restorative nostalgia and focus more on reflective nostalgia. I get too lost in my old emotions and old experiences because I valued that time of my life. I’m happy being by myself and enjoying life alone, but life got to a point where I was tired of experiencing it by myself and I wanted to have someone to share my joy with.
In doing that though I look over signs that tell me I’m running into a situation head first with no armor when I should’ve stayed patient for my time to come. Looking for that energy again or the experience only hurts the people I’m almost playing the puppet master with.
I’m learning to be patient and not try to rush what’s meant for me. Everything happens in Devine timing and when you insist on rushing that then you set yourself back again from the goal that could’ve been in your arms reach.
Practice reflective nostalgia where you can look back on your life and not feel any ill will. Be happy with your life and the decisions you’ve made because they made you who you are now.
Now who you are now may not be who you would like to see in the mirror, but each day you wake up you’re given the opportunity to change that visual.
Make it intentional to change and better yourself in all areas. Never settle for a flaw in your life because “that’s how you are” it’s so much more you could get from life from changing your perspective and viewing a situation in another way. If you fall, get back up, dust yourself off, then try again.